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Susan

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2021.07.29 01:47

Many people on HT write in their bio that they won't respond

to messages that just say 'hello or 'hi.' But it's like... what else do you want people to say to you? 🧐

If you think about it, it's actually very strange because when you meet someone in real life, the first thing you do is greet them. You say 'hello' or some other culturally appropriate greeting. We do it out of habit, politeness, and to show the other person that we acknowledge their existence. How arrogant or self-important do you have to be to think you deserve anything more than a 'hello' from a stranger?

Don't underestimate the power of a simple hello. It could be your ticket to a new friendship, perspective, and experience. That's why it's called HT. You literally say hello and you talk. Some of my best conversations on this app have happened because someone said hello.

If someone is picky about the first thing you say to them on an app, they're probably not someone you want to learn from or be friends with anyway~~

Ironically, these also seem to be the people who complain about never having anyone to talk to.
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  • Lucky 2021.07.29 01:49

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    Well cannot agree with you more on this
  • Olivia 2021.07.29 01:51

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    赞赞赞赞赞赞赞赞赞❤
  • Hmm 2021.07.29 01:52

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    Those people want the other party to carry all the burdens of communication and expect the conversation to be fun and interesting lol I found those type tend to be the less enjoyable conversation partner since they don’t put in any effort.
  • Carlos Zaramella 2021.07.29 01:54

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    @Susan I agree with you
  • ... 2021.07.29 02:01

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    @Susan Exactly. 说得很有道理。Btw, could you tell me the name of the song in your profile? 😄 It sounds really beautiful.
  • 곽동윤 Donovan 2021.07.29 02:06

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    This is quite interesting to read actually. But the thing is, if you get too many messages from other users for example, 10 people say just hello. and when you reply back to them, there is no response anymore. And if you keep doing that, you will be exhausted. Of course, in our real life, we just say hello or hi for beginning the conversation. but here, it's different enviroment. and some people commit the suicide because of bad comments or haters, and they, keyboard worriers don't even care about how other people might feel. So we have to think about the difference between our real life and interaction with people actually around you, and SNS communication. It's good to talk with anyone in the world, but it also can be very tiring and meaningless to talk with random people who I don't even know.
  • 西门吹雪infer 2021.07.29 02:08

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    👍
  • 霸王龙勇闯天涯 2021.07.29 02:13

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    @곽동윤 Donovan 我的简介就是这么写的。你说的就是我的想法。说哈喽虽然我会回你,但是并不会去深聊,因为我不想闲聊我也不知道说什么。我确实是个不会聊天的人。但如果你想学中文,用中文跟我说你好并表达自己的想法,我会很乐意回复并且为了帮助你提高中文开展话题。
  • 곽동윤 Donovan 2021.07.29 02:14

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    The other thing is, they just say hello, and want me to lead the conversation or ask me to teach them or ask me to pleasure them. Which is tiring to respond all of those request. In the internet, actually we can chat with 100 people at the same time 1:1. but it's not possible in our real world, right? So, yeah, I think we should learn how to communicate better and make meaningful relationship from the web based world as well.. and I think, nowadays, technologies are much faster than our consciousness.
  • Yvonne 2021.07.29 02:16

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    long description, Haha, just because they have low EQ, just ignore those rude accounts. if no useful information/knowledge.
  • Susan 2021.07.29 02:17

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    @Hmm Yeah that's been my experience too, so 🤷‍♀️
  • Susan 2021.07.29 02:24

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    @곽동윤 Donovan yes, those are some great points. I do agree that conversations in real life are very different from online conversations, but at the same time, I'm not sure what else people are supposed to say. I understand that people get a lot of messages and that it's unrealistic to respond to all of them, but you could at least check out the person's profile to see if they're someone you would like to talk/respond to. I have messaged numerous people and have put an effort into my "greeting" by making a comment about one of their moments or interests and they either don't respond or give me a dry reply. Interesting and meaningful conversations go both ways, but such conversations are impossible if you only choose to respond to certain people. It's not like people who want more than the generic "hello" are any more interesting or better.
  • Susan 2021.07.29 02:25

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    @... 是。好听的歌!!韩国歌手。Stand up/Get up (일어나) by Kim Kwang Seok!
  • Susan 2021.07.29 02:25

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    @Olivia 💓
  • Susan 2021.07.29 02:25

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    @Lucky 谢谢
  • Jiang 2021.07.29 02:28

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    hello,😄
  • Susan 2021.07.29 02:30

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    @Jiang 哈哈哈 你好
  • ... 2021.07.29 02:32

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    @Susan Thank you, Susan.
  • 곽동윤 Donovan 2021.07.29 02:37

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    @Susan Right, of course we have to respect each other and how to communicate well with them. But usually, many people in this app, just say hi, I checked their profile and no comments or no picture at all, then what can you say? and even some fake account exists here and I don't think we have to be nice to all of them. and, I think If you keep experiencing those situation for like 100, and 1000, and 10000 people, I think you can understand what I mean. haha.. and I think as you get older, I think we have to distinguish who are important and meaningful for your life and focus on people who are important. Because our time is limited. But I agree with you regarding all conversation and relationship start from greetings.
  • Donald Espinoza 2021.07.29 02:41

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    I agree
  • Susan 2021.07.29 03:04

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    @곽동윤 Donovan yeah, definitely lol. I think we can all agree that scammers are annoying and a different breed. I do admit, I don't reply to everyone who messages me, but I do try to keep an open mind when I talk to people because you never know where a simple greeting might take you. Anyway, I didn't mean to come across as harsh or offensive, so I apologize if I came across that way. Obviously, people have their own reasons as to why they don't want to reply to certain messages, which is fine. But at the same time, I do think it's limiting because they're cutting themselves off from potentially interesting and meaningful connections and experiences~~ just something to think about 😊
  • Actaeon 2021.07.29 03:19

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    Simple Hello🧙🏻‍♂️
  • Irek 2021.07.29 04:13

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    Hello Susan 😊
  • Heng 2021.07.29 23:51

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    Your post reminded me of a massage from a Canadian who genuinely introduced himself with age, occupation, reasons why he want to learn Cantonese and why he messaged me. It’s so impressive.
  • Susan 2021.07.30 00:17

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    @Actaeon 😅 hello *waves*
  • Susan 2021.07.30 00:17

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    @Irek hii!!
  • Susan 2021.07.30 00:19

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    @Heng wow, that's awesome 😊 I'm glad to hear that 👍
  • Irek 2021.07.30 04:19

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    @Susan Nice post. Just like you, I think it's always worth giving yourself a chance to meet a new person ... If it turns out not to be a friend, it will teach us something (a person or an event) 😊
  • Actaeon 2021.07.30 09:26

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    @Susan 😅 *waves back*

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