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Kimmi キミー

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2020.02.27 22:55

There seems to be a misunderstanding on this app. So, I'm going

to clear it up right now and you MUST try to understand it. This one is for the boys:

Dear boys,


As you know, many beautiful women use this app. You may wish to say things to her like "you're beautiful" or "you're a goddess" etc. However, did you know that this actually makes most girls feel uncomfortable? This is especially true if it's within a first message.

I understand that you may wish to say this just to be nice or polite, but 99% of the time these comments escalate into full attempts of flirting which then breach the HelloTalk rules..

Please be mindful of how and when you choose to express your attraction towards another human on this app. You need to understand where you stand with your conversational partner beforehand. Some might be OK with it. Others may not be. Don't just dive in with it though because it will create an uncomfortable feeling due to the well-known and most common outcome. You may see it as nothing, but for us it creates real uncomfortable feelings.

Try getting to know someone in a friendly way before you try to flirt with or court them. Also, don't be bitter if your HelloTalk partner doesn't reciprocate your advances. They don't have to appease this need.

Thank you for your kind words, but please consider when you choose to say them and how they might be received. We want to keep this as a happy place for all.


Kind regards,

The real ladies of HelloTalk.
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Comments

  • Lucy 2020.02.27 22:59

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    Really I agree with you~ I am happy to see your post.
  • Michael 2020.02.27 23:02

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    Why so serious? There are many different kinds of people in the world.
  • Kimmi キミー 2020.02.27 23:03

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    @Lucy Thank you! I wanted to try and explain it nicely because I think that a lot of guys don't get this
  • Kimmi キミー 2020.02.27 23:04

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    @Michael Of course there are. That's why I'm saying that it's important to get to know your conversational parter before attempting to compliment or flirt so that they can be understood. I'm not saying that all men are guilty of this, but it's something that frequently creates a misunderstanding
  • Lucy 2020.02.27 23:09

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    @Kimmi キミー so I have some rule in chatting with someone You can see my post. And I have two daughter Older one teach me about that~ even though she is in her mid teens. Already she knows what she treat and respond other. They and you and my daughter are next generation. Really I am with you~^^
  • Joshua 2020.02.27 23:09

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    She just helps guys understand the communication skill when men talk women for the first time. Don't say "You are beautiful." at first. Surely it's depends on people though it can be a good guideline :)
  • Kimmi キミー 2020.02.27 23:11

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    @Joshua You are right. Some people already know this, but some don't so this is my way of letting them know. It's important to take time to get to know who you are speaking to first. Thank you for your understanding and support 😊🙏
  • Kimmi キミー 2020.02.27 23:29

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    For anyone who thinks that I don't defend the boys, please click here 👇 https://hellotalk.com/m/H3VIIwvQZaFIZD==?id=SautnD==
  • riad 2020.02.27 23:36

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    I agree with you 100% right, this app for learning
  • Joshua 2020.02.27 23:37

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    @Kimmi キミー If people carefully read your post, people will not think that you judge men. Just let them go. I can see your decency. That is a kind a favor to ask men.
  • Joseph 2020.02.27 23:46

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    It's really good advice for especially Korean people.  I know that there are a lot of weird guys, and try to flirt with girls on this app. However, I'd like to say that foreign friends,especially female foreigners, would understand those kinds of saying because it could be a sort of greeting or compliment in Korea, not an attempting for flirting.  I think it is just cultural differences. 
  • Joseph 2020.02.27 23:46

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    For example, I was having a conversation with a British girl on this app, and she said she planned to travel to Korea soon, so I just said that I'd like to treat you a meal or coffee when you come to Korea if you don't mind.  Her response was "I have a boyfriend." I was quite surprised by her comment because I couldn't understand what does that have to do with her boyfriend.  Actually, there was no malicious intent l, but it was just a greeting of Korean style. In Korea,  it is a very common expression, such as "나중에 커피 한잔해요 or 밥 한번 먹어요", and it's a just one of expression to compliment for woman like "이쁘세요, 아름다우세요, 너무 날씬하세요". I know that they don't use those kinds of expressions in foreign countries. So, what I want to say is that you don't need to worry about those expressions, and understand the cultural differences.  
  • Kimmi キミー 2020.02.27 23:50

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    @Joseph This idea seems to cause controversy. Calling someone "beautiful" or a "goddess" is uncomfortable across cultures. I spoke to Korean girls about it and they said that it's also uncomfortable for them. Also, some Korean guys said it's uncomfortable. In your case, I believe this could have just been a misunderstanding. My natural response to that would be "I don't know you enough yet, but thank you". In most cases, in the west, offering to treat a girl to a meal would be asking her on a date. I guess that's a cultural difference
  • Chance 2020.02.28 02:59

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    This is why I follow you😌😌
  • Joseph 2020.02.28 10:26

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    @Kimmi キミー Sorry, I didn't realize the generation gap. I should consider the age gap and the difference in viewpoint.

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