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I feel like I am having a serious identity crisis. I am British

but don't feel I belong their because even though I have been away, none of my family care. I don't feel I have anything in Britain for me to come back to. Then my partner is Chinese. But I don't have any friends in China and I don't feel like I belong here either as I am finding it too hard to adjust to. It's heart breaking because I don't feel like I belong to either culture or country. I feel so lost so vulnerable.

Comments

  • haha

    Don’t think too much , U just belong to yourself

  • 马玿 即 idk

    As a way to find English speaking friends, maybe you can enroll in a Chinese-as-a-second language class at a nearby university

  • Handsome_vampire

    It is normal feeling for young people I guess. Home is where the people we love are

  • 傻人有傻福

    It's STRANGE. You're so beautiful. I'd like to be your friend.

  • peter

    It needs time, be patient and there is plenty of chinese people want to improve their English, especially speaking skill, you got a lot of talents just try to make some kind of friends. From that on you will change your mind. Hoping you have a great time everyday, be positive 👻

  • Crystal

    @Lynn 😊 thanks sounds good

  • Crystal

    @Nihao2021 no he just says what do you want me to do, I can't do anything for you😔

  • willy

    @Crystal In fact, you don't know much about Chinese people.The thinking of the Chinese is very different from that of the British.More people who don't want to talk to you,Not because of shyness，The most direct reason is that their spoken English is not good.That requires you to have a strong heart and patience to face these Chinese people.Chinese like to draw close to each other's feelings in a joking way.If you can't get used to this kind of joke, it's really a tough problem.

  • 万涛 Allen Lifetime VIP

    I think there must be lots of people have this feeling ,at least me. everyone is alone and longly.

  • Nihao2021

    tell ur fiance ur feeling, he can help. let him introduce some friends to U .

  • jackwen

    是的有了这种感觉就应该去旅行，努力融入你所在的圈子和环境。

  • Lynn

    Hey don’t be sad , believe there’re so many people love you. And Nanjing is a nice city, I’m in Nanjing too, if you like we can be friends. Be positive always, find some Chinese friends, know more about the Chinese culture and here’s your home

  • Maggie

    You can try to learn Chinese. It helps you easier adapt to Chinese life and make friends. We are always glad to help you.

  • Porco Rosso

    don't think that way. you can find lots of friends here in China

  • Crystal

    @elvis sure😊

  • elvis

    I am in Suzhou, JiangSu Province near you. If you don't mind , we could make friends because I always want to improve my poor spoken English😂. You are not alone. Cheer up😃💪

  • Crystal

    @George sure😊

  • George

    @Crystal you are welcome. Btw, I'd like to be one of your Chinese friends. And I'm not shy to speak English. 😁

  • Joey Lifetime VIP

    @Crystal Yeah true, because maybe they are not good at English 😭 They are not unfriendly, please believe me!!

  • Crystal

    @Joey I tried but no one will speak to me. Everyone is to shy at using English with me

  • Crystal

    @George thanks

  • Hans

    HK or Macau is a better place for you perhaps!

  • 星广

    Maybe you are not hungry

  • Joey Lifetime VIP

    Please don't be shy! We are friendly! If you need help, just ask! 😉

  • George

    All you need to do is to find yourself first. Try to get the idea of what you want, who you want to be with and where you want to go. Don't count on anyone else. Just follow your heart and be yourself.

  • willy

    Although I have the same confusion as you,But I never give up looking for a new world.It just takes a little more time.Everything will be fine.

  • Cong Xu徐聪

    Come on

  • Kathleen

    Hope you find a way to make yourself more happier

  • 채블리

    Hey don't be too much sad! You can be your friend even by yourself foo! and then you can make friends anytime anywhere If you get close to whoever genuinely and honestly! I hope yoo have a lovely day! cheer up!

  • 半亩方塘

    Try to make friends. At the same time, pay attention to the heart of harm and prevention.

  • Ann 柏如

    That's okay❤️You'll find it one day. Future is infinite.

  • Elephant

    You are naughty again.😃

  • 小黑

    well! sometimes I have the same feeling with you. it made me feel terrible and lonely. however, why not choose think in another way? -belive one thing, we belong to ourselves

  • Hooward

    Everything will be fine❤

  • 朗朗

    Your post is really interesting

  • Owen赵 VIP

    Travel around the country.....maybe you can get to a place you will integrate with

  • 彦

    You don’t need to belong somewhere

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