I completely agree with you, because also I’m thinking about similar one. When a new HT member sent me “hi”, then I always asked them “why have you chosen me as your friend? Do you have a specific reason?”.
And almost all of them answered that “I can speak English, and I want to study Japanese. You’re Japanese, so I sent message.”
I had heard same answers again and again. I’m always feeling “well...it’s not only my role. All of Japanese who can speak English can be his/her friends. They are alright whoever Japanese is as his/her friend.
I’m interested in friends’ personalities. I don’t want to talk with people who are not interested in my personality. I want to do language exchange and to communicate with lovely friends! I love conversation for knowing each other!
Of course, there were a lot of people whom you told about here, in the such cases, I had blocked them soonest! Lol
But unwillingly, I can’t contact with my favorite friends here due to my circumstances😞