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rosesaintrednono

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2021.07.07 15:32

大家好!
我有几个问题要问你们所有人,很想知道你们对此事的看法!
这是关于婚姻。
一个网站将其定义为“两个人之间的正式结

合以及社会和法律契约,在法律、经济和情感上将他们的生活结合在一起。”
简而言之,两个人之间的结合。
首次出现于公元 1250-1300 年,是家族之间的联盟行为。
婚姻的观念从那时起就发生了变化,到现在,我想知道你对婚姻的看法。
是一种选择吗?还是不可避免?
一定是为了爱吗?还是为了方便?
爱情总是在婚姻中持续下去还是在最初的火花之后就消失了?
一个人有可能永远爱另一个人吗?
[我用谷歌翻译来翻译这个,所以可能有一些错误]

Hey everyone!
I have a few questions for all of you and would love to know your take on this matter!
It's about marriage.
A website defines it as, "a formal union and social and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally."
In short, a union between two individuals.
First seen in 1250-1300 CE, was an act of alliance between families.
The idea of marriage has evolved since then, and coming to the present, I'd like to know what you think of marriage.
Is it a choice? Or is it inevitable?
Does it have to be for love? Or can it be for convenience?
Does love always last in a marriage or does it die away after the initial spark?
Is it possible for someone to love another forever?
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  • 静怡 2021.07.07 15:33

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    一个人永远爱一个人的事情在老一辈身上可能发生,但是在如今的年代里是极少数
  • 静怡 2021.07.07 15:34

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    喜欢不一定合适,结婚应该找一个合适的人(只是个人观点)
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 15:34

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    @ me too!! 🤝
  • style 2021.07.07 15:35

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    We all have the right to stand by and say something but we're too young to judge it
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 15:36

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    @静怡 我想那是因为人们更懂得珍惜和尊重自己的自我和选择。
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 15:36

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    @静怡 感谢你的建议
  • Mike 2021.07.07 15:37

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    I used to especially like a girl that I haven't loved since this girl left me and then, my point is that if it is to be loved for a long time, both sides have to love each other and not betray each other
  • Logan 2021.07.07 15:38

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    Is it a choice? Or is it inevitable? i feel like it should be a choice between you and your partner(s) Does it have to be for love? Or can it be for convenience? it all depends on the situation honestly, some people may choose to marry for love, others may choose to marry to take care of a kid together and just like each other as friends Does love always last in a marriage or does it die away after the initial spark? it depends on the couple that has gotten married honestly since everyone is different Is it possible for someone to love another forever? yes, i believe it is truly possible for someone to love another forever
  • 静怡 2021.07.07 15:39

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    @rosesaintrednono yessss!The older generation they will always pursue their own heart, as long as the other party is identified who, that is a lifetime thing! That's what I expect
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 15:39

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    @style well I agree with you on the former, but not the latter. We've all experienced some form of love and bondage, and seen these "marriages" around us, so I think we're not too young and we should be able to decide what we want from life, at least in terms of emotional needs.
  • Legolas Malmes 2021.07.07 15:39

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    当你的生活不需要婚姻了,你便适合开启一段婚姻了。婚姻的双方在各自的生活中都应该处于可以情感上得到自足的状态。将婚姻作为一种人生的选择,而不是生活困难的解决方式,才能保证一个良性婚姻关系的建立与发展。peace and love.
  • Legolas Malmes 2021.07.07 15:41

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    @ disagree<(_ _)>
  • Parth 2021.07.07 15:41

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    Well, I think marriage is choice, and you don't have to get in love all the time, I mean there can be arrange marriage too and most of them go pretty good! Actually it depends couple to couple too! In true love I guess love can last longer, moreover the live changes into understanding and caring which are important factors of love, again it depends couple to couple! Yes it's possible for someone to love forever but again it depends somehow what is the spark goes and his/her interest goes away, you won't get any perfect answer of this question, ofc it depends on different perspectives:)
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 15:42

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    @Logan hey thank you Logan for answering each of them! I agree with most of them, although personally, I would never want to get married and I don't believe that you can love someone forever. Thank you so much for answering again! I hope you have a nice day^^
  • Logan 2021.07.07 15:43

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    @rosesaintrednono i respect your opinions, have a nice day as well and keep being amazing 💕💕
  • Lake Xu 2021.07.07 15:44

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    在我的观点,我觉得结婚是两个真心相爱的人过幸福的生活,能互相迁就和包容,但可能现在也有部分人是为了财富,为了生活,为了传宗接代吧
  • style 2021.07.07 15:45

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    @rosesaintrednono we are young and that's the truth, perhaps we have or had tried to have a relationship and that was amazing we can't just say it's childish right.. But maybe we didn't both know weather it's love, but it's truly seriously great.. You could do anything to make her pay your attention, you dare to and that was our nice looking right ain't complex, with thinking or fake.. You know when you are by the one you like wow i can't just say it's feeling but it's really really nice when she or he is laughing by facing at you wow you'd feel like I'm somhow in the heaven being unbelievable joy
  • style 2021.07.07 15:48

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    @Lake Xu 生物们找配偶的行为最终就是为了繁衍后代,,其实这才是最纯正的没有那种拜金的感觉就好比两头狮子
  • Yui. 2021.07.07 15:49

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    @静怡 为什么你这么认为啊,现在的思想反而更加解放,就中国来说,乡土性就决定了中国古代乃至近代婚姻的注重实用性,可以参见《乡土中国》
  • Yui. 2021.07.07 15:51

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    @style 人类不能和动物比啊,人类是有自我意识和高等情感的生物
  • Lake Xu 2021.07.07 15:52

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    @style 确实
  • 静怡 2021.07.07 15:53

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    @Yui. 不不不 我的意思是老一辈的更加深情专一 认定了一个人就是一辈子 现在深情男生真的很少见了,也可能是我没遇到
  • Yui. 2021.07.07 15:55

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    @静怡 为什么你得出这样的结论,是身边的老一辈都是这样吗?也许只是幸存者偏差?但是就社会学理论来说,老一辈不如这一辈的
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 15:55

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    @Parth thanks Parth (lol) yes there is no definite answer and differs from person to person, hence I asked. Yes marriage isn't always about love,that's correct too. The last bit, I'll have to disagree that love lasts forever, because as per me, it doesn't haha. Thanks again!
  • 静怡 2021.07.07 15:57

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    @Yui. 我也说了这只是我个人观点,你不用杠我,你觉得这一辈的比老一辈的好就好呗,我只是从我的角度看到的老一辈比我们这辈好,每个人看到的东西都不一样,你也不能把你的观点想法强压在别人身上。所以我只是仅仅发表个人观点而已
  • 沐鸢 2021.07.07 15:58

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    Why can't one person love another forever?
  • Yui. 2021.07.07 15:58

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    @静怡 我没有杠...😰抱歉
  • 无名 2021.07.07 15:59

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    Although I don't have any opinions on this, I'm just going to enjoy reading others point of view🍿🍹~
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 15:59

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    @Yui. 是的,我明白你想说什么。我的意思是,现在人们不想花时间去爱一个人,而是更多地关注自己.
  • Parth 2021.07.07 15:59

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    @rosesaintrednono Yes, I agree in most of the cases the spark of new romance is not the same later, but I think the understanding, caring, trust can last forever:)
  • 静怡 2021.07.07 16:00

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    @Yui. 噢噢噢 好的不好意思我理解错了你的意思,不好意思啦。我也只是想表达我的观点,可能我看到的那些老一辈的人她们比较专一吧也可能就是我看到我们这一辈的人没有很专一罢了。不好意思了
  • ruanruan 2021.07.07 16:00

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    当然会永远爱一个人,我爸和我妈就很相爱,并不是为了方便。
  • Yui. 2021.07.07 16:00

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    @rosesaintrednono 我认同你的观点👍
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 16:01

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    @Legolas Malmes excellent vocabulary hahah. Thanks for sharing your view!
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 16:04

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    @ruanruan 感谢你的建议!
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 16:05

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    @静怡 very interesting read! Thank you so much^^
  • 静怡 2021.07.07 16:05

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    @rosesaintrednono You are welcome
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 16:05

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    @ I agree Mr. Potato, it sure is an illusion;)
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 16:05

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    @沐鸢 so what do you think about it?
  • Down 2021.07.07 16:06

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    在中国有句话“婚姻是爱情的坟墓”,其实所有的爱情在结婚后其实会渐渐消亡,但是取而代之的是亲情,在整个社会每个人都很累,如果回到家有个人可以在精神上肉体上让人彻底的放松的人我觉得就是所谓的爱情和亲情,所以还是合适在第一位,如果喜欢的话可以更好!如果合适的话,朝夕相处下也可以“日久生情“ 这只是我短短十几年的阅历的理解,希望对你有帮助
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 16:06

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    @无名 girl here's your popcorn refill 🍿~
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 16:07

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    @Lake Xu 这是正确的。每个人结婚的原因都不一样。
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 16:12

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    @Down a very mature answer, thank you for sharing that^^
  • Lake Xu 2021.07.07 16:14

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    @style 但也有一些不是吧,例如丁克家庭,所以我觉得交配只能算是结婚的一部分。
  • 沐鸢 2021.07.07 16:19

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    @rosesaintrednono 我觉得一定会永远爱着对方,但有一些人不一样,这是因人而异的
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.07 16:20

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    @沐鸢 谢谢分享你的意见^^ 晚安!
  • 沐鸢 2021.07.07 16:21

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    @rosesaintrednono 不用谢,安
  • zhang 2021.07.07 16:25

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    You'll know when you grow up😊
  • Appourva 2021.07.07 19:16

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    I don't think it's possible for someone to love another forever as we are humans... We are greedy by nature. I find love a very difficult topic but according to my view I would say marriage shouldn't be a necessity. It should be a choice for both men, women and others. Marriage can be for convenience but the chances for it to be a successful one is very low. I don't think love ever lasts forever 😂 it can be for a long term or an initial spark. If we love someone because of their outer appearance then it will surely be a failure but if we love someone because of them being themselves and enjoying their life their way and be attached to their souls then I think this kinda love can last forever but nothings for sure
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.08 02:36

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    @Appourva thanks Appourva! I agree with you too! Love doesn't last forever haha, we just tolerate the other person ig lmao
  • 阿诺 2021.07.08 06:02

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    People in marriage may get married because of love, but in decades of getting along, love often turns into family love。A person foreverloves a person is not without, But very few.There is another kind, Parents ask you to get married, you can only find someone to live with
  • Appourva 2021.07.08 08:22

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    @rosesaintrednono exactly!!
  • 云魂谨禾 2021.07.08 22:34

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    婚姻不是必选,可以不婚,选择权在自己。婚姻是两个人相爱才会出现的。不得不承认大部分的爱情都无法维持很长时间。一个人有可能永远爱一个没有血缘关系的人,但几率不大
  • rosesaintrednono 2021.07.09 06:30

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    @云魂谨禾 thanks for your opinion!
  • 大明白 2021.07.09 13:58

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    我年纪小不懂爱,只知道喜欢,遇见喜欢的时候就好像春风拂面
  • 林文静是我大哥 2021.08.04 07:50

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    Why do you want to pin your hopes on another person? If I have five dollars, and the tone makes me spend money on running love, I would rather use it to buy a love, which is just a chemical reaction caused by the body letting you reproduce. When the passion fades, it will only leave a failed marriage
  • 怎渡秋 2021.08.24 14:17

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    出于浪漫 我应该说我会永远爱她 基于现实 我只能说在这一刻 没有人能比我更爱她
  • ggsddh 2021.09.20 18:45

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    婚姻是生命中的一个过程,在遇到合适的人后进行。

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