# Moments by 蒹葭hy **@ok_hy118** ## Quick Navigation - [Find Partners](https://www.hellotalk.com/partners.md): Discover language exchange partners worldwide - [Language Exchange](https://www.hellotalk.com/partners/exchange.md): Practice with native speakers worldwide - [Moments](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments.md): Share your language learning journey - [Topics](https://www.hellotalk.com/topics.md): Explore trending topics and discussions - [Chat & Messaging](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/chat.md): Text, voice, and video conversations - [Voice Rooms](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/voiceroom.md): Join live audio conversations - [Live Streaming](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/live-streaming.md): Interactive classes and language sessions - [Certified Teachers](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/certified-teachers.md): Learn from professional language instructors - [Immersive Learning](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/immersive-learning.md): Learn everywhere with instant translations - [Translation Tools](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/translation.md): Instant translation between any languages - [AI-Powered Apps](https://www.hellotalk.com/aiapps.md): Access specialized learning tools - [Language AI Apps](https://www.hellotalk.com/aiapps.md): Discover our AI-powered language learning applications - [All Features](https://www.hellotalk.com/features.md): Explore all learning features and tools - [Download](https://www.hellotalk.com/download.md): Get HelloTalk on iOS and Android Showing 30 of 157 moments --- ## 1. 8/15/2025 Betrayal To journey is to betray the land that raised me, To grow is to betray the child I used to be, To break these chains is to betray the rule’s decree— Yet my love for you, is the one exception: never a betrayal of me. 背叛 旅行是对故里的背叛 长大是对儿时的背叛 挣脱桎梏是对规则的背叛 而我对你的爱—— 却唯独不是对我自己的背叛 **Language**: English *1 likes · 47 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/S2paxIxyWGqjHD.md) --- ## 2. 8/15/2025 Growing up is a betrayal of what you once were When we were young, we were always taught to be hard on ourselves. Otherwise, we’d fail to get the scores we wanted, fail to get into the universities we dreamed of, fail to win over the people we liked, and fail to find satisfying jobs... But as we grow older, we finally learn that we must be kind to ourselves. Otherwise, without a healthy body and good spirits, we can’t hold onto achievements that should have been ours, we miss out on the beauty of the world, and we can’t be there for the people we love... 小时候总是被教育，要对自己狠一点。不然考不到理想的分数，上不了向往的大学，追不到喜欢的人，找不到满意的工作…长大了才知道，要对自己好一点。不然没有好身体和好心情，守不住本该到手的成就，体会不到世界的美好，陪伴不了心爱的人… **Language**: English *1 likes · 29 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/pvxmtxuzWQqjHD.md) --- ## 3. 8/13/2025 Recently, I've been driven completely topsy-turvy and can't help myself by a bird. Look, this bird! It urges me to study in all sorts of creative ways, making it impossible for me to bear to ignore it; its wildly exaggerated praise boosts my confidence sky-high; all sorts of difficulties suddenly seem "so easy" to me. 最近被一只鸟搞得七荤八素、欲罢不能。看，就是它！各种花式崔学，让我于心不忍；各种夸张赞美让我信心爆棚；各种困难都让我觉得so easy。 **Language**: English *2 likes · 1 comments · 25 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/uHV1ILIHVbIjHD.md) --- ## 4. 8/8/2025 Two Dreams Just before waking this morning, I had a dream. It was filled with fragmented, disordered details I normally wouldn’t notice in daily life. A friend invited me to a meal, but I replied, "My stomach’s still full—I really can’t eat right now." During my noon nap, I slipped into another dream. I saw my grandmother, my father, and several elders from our village—all of whom seemed to have passed away. I greeted them warmly, and they welcomed me with silent smiles. Though my father spoke, his words weren’t directed at me. While touring their dwelling place, he led me to an extraordinarily mysterious realm: the sky was a profound, deep blue, veiled in drifting wisps of white mist. Nearby stood a colossal, otherworldly tree, its crown piercing the clouds, adorned with enormous, pendulous clusters of blossoms. Their houses were towering structures, unmistakably stately mansions. Mist curled everywhere, shrouding all the buildings in an air of secrecy. They accepted all the fine things I’d brought them, and they also kept that driver who’d meant to cause trouble on the road—yes, he was to remain there forever. **Language**: English *1 likes · 1 comments · 45 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/Dmq4zDqWxxWjHD.md) --- ## 5. 8/2/2025 如果你有空，不如来加入我的语聊房，一起聊天吧！ **Language**: ZH-CN *66 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/SOMwMINQMMqtHD.md) --- ## 6. 8/2/2025 我刚刚创建了一个语聊房，快来和我一起聊天吧！ **Language**: ZH-CN *63 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/MNt5nIA3x5qtHD.md) --- ## 7. 7/24/2025 what does this person mean? 这个人是什么用意？间谍？ **Language**: ZH-CN *1 likes · 5 comments · 215 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/PNt5uFM2SFStHD.md) --- ## 8. 7/23/2025 Journey to the West Who says the journey to the West was only about those four pilgrims? It was clearly every solitary "I". We think we're following the story of the four pilgrims' quest for Buddhist scriptures, but in essence, we're seeing how we ourselves battle and level up against demons and monsters in the world. 谁说西天取经只有那师徒四人，明明是每一个孤独的“我”。我们以为看的是师徒四人西天取经的故事，实际上看的是我们自己面临妖魔鬼怪如何打怪升级。 **Language**: English *3 likes · 131 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/EKAWADqwqmOtHD.md) --- ## 9. 7/13/2025 ……… A thousand yous run, merge into one – chasin' your Rome A thousand mes race, become one – headin' for my home Different destinations, but side by side, we roam Brothers in this fight, no need to roam alone You need my hand, I need your lift We prop each other up, that's how we shift Higher, stronger, together – that's the gift Right here, right now – let the record play To all who helped me, and I helped along the way Love y'all – that's the truth, no sway We'll reach each other's Rome, come what may You're amazing you – yeah, that's a fact I'm wonderful me – no need to act （beat fades） **Language**: English *3 likes · 148 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/VaNxnKORutADHD.md) --- ## 10. 7/13/2025 amazing you and wonderful me （beat drops） Yo listen up, let me spit a story 'bout you and me Amazing you, wonderful me – that's our legacy Your Chinese grind's just like me chasin' ABCs Fired up one sec, then tripped up by the complexities One minute crushin' it, next stuck with a frown This language tango? We're both fumbling around You say my home's your Rome, I laugh – yours is my fantasy You crave Gothic steeples, plane trees paintin' streets Café corners, a girl's smile, pure poetry I'm dreamin' hotpot steam, hanfu's flowin' grace, that energy You wanna touch Beijing's walls, step where Zhangjiajie clouds rise Chase Sichuan's bullet trains, taste Guangzhou's morning vibe Read Li Bai's moon, decode Laozi's wise disguise I say "Greedy soul – you're turnin' pretty Chinese, no lie" You quote Dai Wangshu's "lilac girl", I hit Xu Zhimo's rhyme "Her低头's softness, like a water lily shiverin' in time" You miss xiaolongbao folds, preserved egg porridge's climb I say "Come on over – I'll feed you daily, wallet's doin' fine" Messed up 520 as 250? Nah, ain't no crime We all start with blunders, that's how we learn to shine You twist Tai Chi moves at dawn, sun climbin' high I hit Pilates twice a week, chasin' that lean design You say you envy my homeland, steady, safe, people at ease I say "Nail that Chinese – stay, you'll see Every place has its thorns, but stability? Unbeatable, believe" ……… **Language**: English *2 likes · 124 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/L1NMAJZQutADHD.md) --- ## 11. 7/13/2025 amazing you and wonderful me （beat起） Yo check it 听我讲段故事 关于我和你 Amazing you and wonderful me 刻进DNA里 你学中文的样子 像极了我背ABC 热情烧得滚烫 转眼被难题按在原地 时而冲锋 时而皱眉 碎碎念这语言的魔力 咱俩这熊样 简直是复制粘贴的迷 你说我脚下是你的罗马 我笑你那儿是我的目的地 我馋着哥特教堂的尖顶 法桐叶铺满的诗意 街角咖啡香里 姑娘的侧脸太治愈 你却念着火锅沸腾 汉服马面裙转起的涟漪 你想摸北京的城墙 踩张家界的云 追川渝高铁的风 吞广州早茶的魂 读李白的月亮 悟老子的混沌 我说你这贪心样 倒像个地道中国人 你背戴望舒的丁香 我念徐志摩的娇羞 你馋小笼包的褶 惦记皮蛋粥的稠 我说管够 顿顿安排 钱包它不会发抖 520说成250？哈哈谁没在新手村出糗 你打太极 推云手 晨光里慢悠悠 我练普拉提 绷着肉 为了线条更优秀 你说羡慕这安稳 烟火气里的温柔 我说学好留下 日子有甜也有漏 但安定这张牌 咱必须甩在最前头 无数个你 奔成一个方向 踩碎迷茫 无数个我 追着一道光 从不慌张 不同的罗马 同路的肩膀 你扶我一把 我给你力量 这战友情谊比钢强 Yo 就在这 就在此刻 献给帮过我的 我也温暖过的每个轮廓 爱你们 是心底最真的嘱托 总有一天 咱们都能站在彼此的罗马 唱这首歌 你是amazing you 闪耀如星河 我是wonderful me 灿烂也炽热 （beat落） **Language**: ZH-CN *2 likes · 95 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/O0HjHKBEItADHD.md) --- ## 12. 7/11/2025 Who can help me turn my rap lyrics into songs with music and sing them out? 谁可以帮我把我写的rap歌词配上音乐变成歌，唱出来？ **Language**: English *1 likes · 95 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/JNDNI3SjZQSDHD.md) --- ## 13. 7/10/2025 中文Rap版《找回自己》（带Flow标注） （Beat起，80BPM低沉鼓点，重低音打底） - Verse 1（节奏偏缓，单字咬字清晰，每句末尾轻微拖拍） 23岁那个夏天 我把自己丢了（↑） 自信勇敢 利利索索 全被现实活剥（↓） 剩下个机器 只会干活 心早累成粉末（↑） 扛着所有人的期待 独独亏了本我（↓） 这23年 像场漫长的漂泊（↑） 两次婚姻 来了又走 留不住半点温热（↓） 女儿的笑 照不亮我眼底的荒漠（↑） 白了头发 哑了嗓子 病成了躯壳的枷锁（↓） （Beat加入 hi-hat 加速，节奏变密） 以为灵魂早死了 埋在那年的角落（↑） 直到同学一句 他没了 心突然炸开个豁（↓） 那个又黑又瘦的梦 突然鲜活（↑） 抱着他哭到醒 才想起 是他先选了前途 不是我（↓↓） - Hook（旋律上扬，加重鼓点，重复强调） 找回自己 找回那个夏天的风（↑↑） 23岁的眼泪 46岁才懂（↓↓） 他是镜子 照出我缺的勇（↑↑） 原来爱他 是爱没长大的我（↓↓） - Verse 2（节奏稍缓，加入切分音） 查遍全网 信息停在2023的秋（↑） 心绞成麻花 疼得像被命运诅咒（↓） 直到那张值班表 把希望空投（↑） 威海的风 带他声音归来 熟悉又生涩（↓） 视频里 聊到病痛 聊到婚礼像送葬的流程（↑） 他一句 回家吧 我竟撒起娇 像个孩子似的哼（↓） 那瞬间 我惊了 这声音 不是早死了吗（↑） 原来23岁的她 一直在原地 等我转身（↓） （Beat骤停半秒，重鼓点切入） 他说时间太快 老了 发个呲牙表情（↑） 我说男人薄情 他回三个哭笑不得 像场哑剧（↓） 哭到崩溃时 突然看清 那个等待的自己（↑） 正化作金粉 融进黑暗 却亮了前行的路径（↓） - Outro（节奏渐慢，余音拉长） 荣格说 这是神圣的相遇 不是为了相拥（↑） 是让他做面镜子 照出我缺的那部分勇（↓） 现在我张开双臂 拥抱那个走失的魂（↑） 没在一起 却已超越一切于我之心中（↓↓） **Language**: ZH-CN *4 likes · 112 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/p2ERM4BPqMODHD.md) --- ## 14. 7/10/2025 English Rap Version 《Find Myself》（带Flow标注） （Trap beat，100BPM，808 bass 贯穿） - Verse 1（快速连读，尾词轻微爆破） 23 that summer, I lost myself in the haze（↑） Confidence, courage, stripped by life's harsh ways（↓） Left a machine, just working, heart turned dust and ash（↑） Carrying everyone's hopes, my own self got trashed（↓） 23 years, a drift through the dark abyss（↑） Two marriages came, went — no warmth, just a miss（↓） Daughter's smile couldn't light the desert in my eyes（↑） Gray hair, voice gone hoarse, sickness as my disguise（↓） （Beat加入 snare roll，节奏提速） Thought my soul was dead, buried where the past lies（↑） Till "he's gone" — heart split, no disguise（↓） That dream: thin, black, naked, dying on the ground（↑） Holding him, crying "sorry" — woke up, memories unbound（↓） - Hook（旋律感增强，重音落在尾词） Find myself, find the wind from that summer（↑↑） 23's tears, 46 finally under（↓↓） He's the mirror, showing the courage I lack（↑↑） Loving him? Just loving the me I could be, that's a fact（↓↓） - Verse 2（切分节奏明显，短句顿挫） Searched his name, 2023 was the end（↑） Heart twisted in pain, fate's cruel trend（↓） Till that roster popped — hope crashed in like a wave（↑） His voice from Weihai, familiar, saved（↓） Video call: asthma, weddings like a funeral march（↑） He said "go home" — I pouted, caught off guard（↓） That voice, only when loved, fully accepted, would start（↑） 23-year-old me, waiting, found her spark（↓） （Beat drop，停顿后重鼓点） He said time flies, old now — sent a grinning emoji（↑） I said men are cold — he sent three "哭笑不得", tricky（↓） Crying till I saw: that girl in wait, fading gold dust（↑） Her light stayed, guiding through the rust（↓） - Outro（节奏放缓，气息拉长） Jung said: sacred meet, not for holding tight（↑） But to see the parts of me, lost in the night（↓） Now I hug that self, step forward, no fear（↑） Not together, but beyond — that's clear（↓↓） **Language**: English *2 likes · 87 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/NGVcBGRJO4ODHD.md) --- ## 15. 7/8/2025 （接上文） 一日，我哮喘又犯了，跑去医院，医生直接将我收治住院。每日的单调治疗，让我无聊。一次治疗结束，我没有回家，开车到了别处，我联系他，视频里我们聊了很多。是的，对话很通畅，很轻易的他就得知为什么我会生病，为什么会免疫力低，为什么婚礼于我是送葬般的恐怖……天色已经很晚了，车外已是灯火通明，他劝我回家，我不想回，还想跟他继续聊会儿，竟然像小孩子一样撒娇起来。我像个小孩一样，说嗯~嗯，一边说不回。我意识到我在撒娇的时候，我惊呆了。那个声音是我在完全被接纳、被温柔以待、被深深爱着时才自然发出的声音。那是只有在爸爸面前和他面前才发出的声音。我感觉，我的心又被照亮了，我隐隐看见了那个曾经的自己。我看见她在23岁的那年双眼噙泪，孤单地在原地等待着。那一声撒娇是她发出的，我听见了 我跟他说了那个梦，他说很吓人 我问他，为什么 他说，死了肯定吓人 我说，你眼中的死人是别人心中的爱人，失去爱人的心痛会吓人吗？ 他说，也吓也不吓吧 我说，男人都是薄情的，包括你，一个吡牙的表情 他发来一串表情，三个吡牙，三个哭笑不得我说，我记得在梦里你的样子，我心都碎了，我怪自己为什么要离开你，可是当我梦醒了，我才想起来，是你选择离开我 他说，时间太快了，我都老了。一个吡牙表情，一年 一年太魔幻了 我问，老了的人看别人对自己的爱是个笑话吗 他说，不是啊 我说，可你给我感觉就是啊 他说，肯定是感觉错了啊 我问，这是感受，我不能否定自己的感受 他说，对 我发了一串大哭的表情 他问，怎么了 我说，哭了，心里难受 我们在争论与辩解的那一刻，我清晰地看到那个在23岁一直等待的我在如金粉一般消失，消失在完全的黑暗里 若干天后，我读到一篇文章《宇宙为什么让你遇见无法拥有的人——荣格》“它们是一份神圣的邀约，让你遇见命中注定要成为的那个人”“TA正在映射出你身上那些一直隐藏在阴影中等待被人认领的部分。卡尔.荣格将这种现象称为投射。”“宇宙并非让TA成为你的爱人，而是让他成为你的引路人，这就是奇迹发生的地方。那个你无法在一起的人，并非注定要长久相伴，而是注定要引发一场蜕变。”“那个你无法与之在一起的人是一份礼物，而非诅咒。他们是一面镜子，映照出你一直忽视的自身物质、你的梦想、你的长处和你的潜力他们并非你的灵魂伴侣，他们是你尚未完全融合的内在自我的一面镜子。他们的存在是在召唤你弥合自身的差距。”“那个你无法在一起的人之所以显得如此重要，是因为他们代表着你心灵中缺失的那一半，而非为了让你变得完整”“你接纳他们所展现出的品质，就会发现，你对他们的爱，其实是对正在成长的自己的爱。”“这是一场神圣的洗礼，是一个试炼场，在这里，你的灵魂会被锻造得更加坚韧、更加真实、更加充满活力。这个人曾照亮你的世界，却又从你的世界中消逝。这就是卡尔.荣格所说的神圣心碎。这不是关于得到你想要的东西，而是关于成为你注定要成为的人。“爱得越深，成长的潜力就越大。那个你无法拥有的人唤醒了你感受的能力、梦想并体验着那些你原本可能永远不会发现的事情。”“尊重这份痛苦，让它指引你，要知道你所感受到的爱从未消逝，它正将你塑造成你命中注定的要成为的那个人。” 那么世界让我们遇到以为是灵魂伴侣的人，却又不让我们在一起的意义是什么？是为了我们可以在对方身上照见我们缺失又追逐的东西或者品质 我们喜欢对方，其实喜欢的是我们自己 我知道了，他就是真实世界里的另一个我，他让我看到我可以成为的样子，他坚韧、他于迷茫中寻求答案，他在黑暗里穿行，他在孤独中成长着……那些美好的品质引领着我，走过泥泞的小路、走过崎岖的山路，走过悬崖与峭壁，走出黑暗的森林，最终我会像他一样 当我安于发展自身的这部分没有的品质，就会发现，那个我曾经深爱过的人是带领我打开自己更好人生的人，值得我感激他 虽然没有在一起，也已经超越了在一起 此时，我要拥抱那个消失的自己，我感觉我可以前行了 **Language**: ZH-CN *7 likes · 114 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/tOVvHHqcBGyNHD.md) --- ## 16. 7/8/2025 亲爱的自己 23岁那一年夏天，我丢失了自己。那个自信、勇敢、干碎利索、热爱生活、热爱生命、感觉敏锐的自己。剩下的，是一个该干啥就干啥的纯粹的理性人，是一个学习工作的机器，是一个心和身体要累死了，却只会死扛的人，是一个要对得起所有人却唯独对不起自己的人 这些年我一直在找她，在黑暗里找她，在网络里找她，在书本里找她，在心理学活动里找她……可是我都找不到 如今我已46岁，已经失去自己23年，这23年里我结过两次婚，又离了两次婚，我有了女儿，在孤独的育儿中，我白了头发，失去了清脆的嗓音，美丽的容貌，走失了活力与健康，添了一身的病 我虽活着，却如行尸走肉，没有灵魂，我从未爱过别人，别人爱我，我也接不住 我以为她再也不会回来了 我以为她彻底消失了 是的，我以为她死了 一日，同学发来微信，说XXX没了，不知道是什么原因没的。我紧接着问，你听谁说的？同学说，是听一个现在的同事，他以前的学生说的。我内心一阵巨痛，就像失去自我一般的痛。 想起我做过的梦，他又黑又瘦，赤裸身体，奄奄一息，瘫倒在地上，我抱着他大哭，内心是深深的自责，如果当初我不离开你就好了，我错了……他的身体渐渐变冷变硬，我紧紧抱着他，久久不放……直到我哭醒了，我才想起，是他主动离开了我，是他在我父亲的高压之下，在我和前途之间选择了前途。我没有怨言，没有责备，只是伤心 而此时，我得知他去世的消息却怎么也不淡定，我查了他在网上的所有信息，而所有信息只停留在2023年。他真的去世了吗？只要想起这样的疑问，便心痛如绞。我强打精神，自我安慰。如果真的去世了，那我便可以正大光明的思念你了；如果没有，我愿你健康平安，我愿你幸福喜乐 于是，我开始用XX行业里的朋友去找他。终于在一个内部网上查到了他的消息。“XX公司副总客户接待日值班表”我好开心，他没死，他还在，我的心开始激动地哆嗦。我想和他联系，我想和他通话，我想知道他到底发生了什么。是一个年轻的小伙子接的电话，问我是谁，我告知姓名和联系方式，希望给我回电。三天后，我听到一个久违的声音，一个熟悉又陌生的声音，他说小伙子跟他汇报的时候，他正在威海督导业务，没有回省公司，一听姓就知道是谁……因为是上班期间，我们没有聊太多，只是互加了微信，要常联系 后来联系过程中，我知道他后来结了婚，又生了一个女儿，如今大女儿在日本，已经研究生毕业工作了结婚了，二女儿在美国，今年申请大学…… **Language**: ZH-CN *59 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/AlAbDSVIBGyNHD.md) --- ## 17. 7/5/2025 一个令人心塞又悲伤的提问，被莫名其妙怀疑用心理学手段影响别人的家庭系统，这个问题被拐弯抹角的问了三次！我只能说我从来没有过，而且现在不会，未来也不会。但是我无法证明。如果你真的怀疑，就请你证明我做过吧，最好拿出证据，且有完整的证据链。时间会检验一切！ **Language**: ZH-CN *3 likes · 109 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/pLRHW3Lzx1MNHD.md) --- ## 18. 6/22/2025 I'd like to consult a question: In Australia, can one make a living using health techniques such as tui na massage, massage, and needle hammer therapy? if you were from Australia, please answer me. thank you very much. **Language**: English *2 likes · 2 comments · 97 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/PMOtx3JLNxpjHD.md) --- ## 19. 6/10/2025 关于个案中一个流产的孩子的视角 周日晚上参加了一个紧急个案的系统排列。关于个案内容我不方便说，我只能从我作为一个被流产的孩子的角色代表的角度讲一讲我的感受。 我代表的是家庭系统里第二个被流产的孩子，第一个被流产的孩子会得到妈妈的拥抱，虽然她感受不到任何情感的流动。第三个被流产的孩子会得到爸爸的拥抱。但是我——第二个被流产的孩子，没有一个人看到我，不只是爸爸妈妈，甚至是整个家族的人都看不到我，除了那个还活着的小妹。我当时作为角色代表，内心很伤心，很愤怒。我大声说，为什么我不哭不闹，我这么好，这么有力量，你们都看不到我？难道我只有像死去的小姑奶奶，必须闹一闹你们才能看见我吗？当家排老师让我进入系统时，我无论如何都进不去。这时，爸爸说：“我爱你，可是我也没办法啊，我也有我的苦衷。”我终于忍无可忍，大声质问：“你有苦衷，你让我理解你？我已经被流产了，我死了，我还要怎么理解你？而且不止我死了，还有两个孩子都死了，都是你不承担责任的后果，你还要我们怎么理解你？”爸爸角色的代表开始泣不成声。他过来抱住我，跟我说：“爸爸错了，爸爸爱你。”瞬间，我的心就软了，泪流满面。我也抱住“爸爸”，说：“我知道你看见我了，我知道你爱我，我也爱你。”然后妈妈也过来抱住我，说自己错了，说爱“我”。“我”就安静了…… 父母的苦衷再大，能大过孩子的命吗？孩子的死本身就是父母不作为的代价。孩子只需要做父母的能看到TA,没有过多的要求。可见孩子爱父母比父母爱孩子多得多。孩子的爱比父母对孩子的爱更忠诚，更不愿放弃。这就是孩子啊… **Language**: ZH-CN *3 likes · 124 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/FFrIMMEmA1ttHD.md) --- ## 20. 5/20/2025 Today is 520. Wish you happiness! **Language**: English *6 likes · 3 comments · 159 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/ADvUuwOJtUVDHD.md) --- ## 21. 5/11/2025 Happy Mother's Day to mom and me **Language**: English *7 likes · 240 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/MtOUEHAONNLNHD.md) --- ## 22. 5/3/2025 今天，我要正大光明的，隆重的吃一次甜食。今天是我的阴历生日，祝我生日快乐！祝我每天都健康快乐！祝我泰山压顶腰不弯！祝我永远永远有力量、有正义感、有足够的智慧和勇气面对挑战！祝我每天成长，保持我自己的模样！祝我永远真诚的朋友满天下！ **Language**: ZH-CN *15 likes · 5 comments · 554 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/XUx4Ejy2xuNNHD.md) --- ## 23. 4/30/2025 利用AI做图片最大的好处是，你随时可以出现在你想去的任何时空，自由穿越…比如，我曾经对民国时期的中式室内装修、中式服装——旗袍非常喜欢，但是没有时间和精力去体验，就借助AI帮忙让自己欢乐一次，哈哈 **Language**: ZH-CN *15 likes · 411 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/q0RDN1y0RNvMDD.md) --- ## 24. 4/30/2025 the last lunch before international work's day at work. **Language**: English *14 likes · 4 comments · 335 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/pkZbrPBOtMrMDD.md) --- ## 25. 4/14/2025 Breakfast Let us hv our breakfast! Elm seed steamed buns, boiled baby bok choy, and a boiled egg. **Language**: English *18 likes · 392 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/OIL3VtHHp5JWDD.md) --- ## 26. 4/12/2025 刚和Dave Guo完成了10分钟的语言交换通话☎️，我帮助Dave Guo学习了5.0分钟Chinese Simplified，Dave Guo也帮助我学习了English 5.0分钟，有趣又实用，很开心提高了语言能力，谢谢Dave Guo！😄 **Language**: ZH-CN *7 likes · 340 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/pNW2tKHESVFWDD.md) --- ## 27. 4/9/2025 自卑与超越 今天早上不到7点，读书会主持人发消息让我在当晚的读书会上分享阿德勒个体心理学的核心内容。得知这个任务时，我心里像压了一块大石头——毫无心理准备的我，本能地觉得自己做不到。其实主持人知道我研究生阶段学过心理学，特意把任务交给我，这背后是信任，可这份信任却让我更加焦虑。 此前几天我一直感冒，接到消息后，头晕、鼻塞、头痛愈发明显，甚至走路都有些不稳。上午上班到10点，身体实在撑不住，我去药店买了药，中午吃完药午休时，头痛欲裂的感觉几乎要把人“炸开”。但想到晚上的分享，我告诉自己：“先写吧，哪怕写不完或写得差，大不了不分享；但如果写好了，就去试试。” 下午上班时，我抓住空闲时间查资料、写稿。从3点到5点半下班，整整两个半小时，我沉浸在梳理内容中。当终于写完底稿时，我意外地发现自己对成果很满意，那种“胸有成竹”的感觉第一次真切地涌上来——原来我是可以做到的。我立刻把底稿发给主持人，对晚上的分享有了期待。 当晚的分享只有5分钟，却超出了我的预期。虽然时间短暂，但我清晰地表达了核心观点，结束时内心满是成就感。回顾这一天，从最初的自我怀疑、身体不适带来的痛苦，到逼迫自己行动、最终完成分享，这个过程像一面镜子，照见了阿德勒“自卑与超越”理论的真实模样：当我们被自卑笼罩时，最好的解药不是逃避，而是直面它——哪怕带着“写不好就放弃”的低预期去行动，只要真正迈出第一步，专注于眼前的任务，就会在过程中逐渐积累信心，最终超越那个曾以为“做不到”的自己。 这场从自卑到超越的蜕变，没有想象中宏大的仪式，只是一次咬牙坚持的写稿、一段全力以赴的分享。但正是这种脚踏实地的行动，让我真切体会到：超越从来不是突然的顿悟，而是用每一个“试试看”的决定，慢慢搭建起通向自我突破的阶梯。 **Language**: ZH-CN *7 likes · 296 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/uIHOL1WHZzXWDD.md) --- ## 28. 4/9/2025 What Life Could Mean To You? This morning, before 7 a.m., the book club host messaged me, asking me to share the core concepts of Adler's Individual Psychology at that evening's session. When I received the task, it felt like a heavy stone was pressing on my heart—completely unprepared, my instinct told me I couldn't do it. The host knew I had studied psychology in graduate school, which was why they entrusted me with this responsibility. Their trust only amplified my anxiety. In the days leading up to this, I had been battling a cold. After receiving the message, my dizziness, stuffy nose, and headache worsened, even making it hard to walk steadily. By 10 a.m. at work, I could barely hold on, so I went to the pharmacy to buy medicine. At lunch, after taking the pills and lying down, the splitting headache felt like it was about to "blow me apart." But thinking about the evening's task, I told myself: "Just start writing. Even if it’s incomplete or poorly done, I can always choose not to share. But if it turns out well, I’ll give it a try." During work in the afternoon, I seized every free moment to research and draft my talk. From 3 p.m. until leaving at 5:30, I spent two and a half hours immersed in organizing the content. When I finally finished the draft, I was surprised to find myself genuinely satisfied with it—a sense of confidence I had never felt so vividly before. It turned out I *could* do it. I immediately sent the draft to the host and began looking forward to the evening’s session. **Language**: English *11 likes · 2 comments · 320 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/OyLEMVZxpTXWDD.md) --- ## 29. 4/5/2025 After using a phone for years, some features remain unused and unmastered—if never put to use, it’s as if one has never fully owned the tool at all. Similarly, human potential that never gets a chance to be unleashed feels like a segment of life that was never truly lived. 手机用了N年，某些功能一直不用就一直不会用，就好像从不曾彻底拥有过这个工具。人的潜能一直没有机会释放，就好像从不曾拥有过某段人生。 **Language**: English *9 likes · 354 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/SDHbVzMHM1y5DD.md) --- ## 30. 4/3/2025 一位尿毒症患者的幸福故事 他讲述了什么呢？他坦然接受自己的人生经历：16岁初中毕业后便前往北京打工，第二年就独自开了一家规模很大的饭店。那还是上世纪八十年代，日营业额竟可达上万元，可见生意做得风生水起。他说自己常和片警、管户籍的工作人员一起喝酒玩乐，不知不觉就和他们成了朋友。我想，这或许就是所谓的“同频共振”吧。 他还举了个例子：有一次因他人事件被牵连调查，关押数日后，因确认与他无关而被释放。没想到，负责审讯他的工作人员竟和他成了朋友。他笑称很多事都很神奇，自己也说不清楚。 谈及现在的妻子，他说这是自己的二婚，妻子对他格外体贴。很多肾透析患者的配偶会因疾病选择离婚，但他的妻子从未嫌弃过他，每次做完透析，妻子都会一口一口地喂他吃饭。说到这里，他的眼中满是知足。他还说，妻子每天回家都会把家里打扫得一尘不染，从不抱怨半句。 他感慨道：“虽然现在生病了需要透析，但该经历的、该拥有的我都得到过。在北京的那些年，我积累了财富，还曾和中央的领导们聊天谈心。”回忆起这些，他的脸上总是洋溢着喜悦的神情。尽管被病痛折磨，他却显得格外知足、满足和快乐。 他甚至会反思自己的病情，觉得这是人生的必然经历，内心坦然接受，没有丝毫苦恼和忧虑。用这样的心态看待生活，用这样的思索面对苦难，他所讲述的点点滴滴，分明就是幸福的模样。 那么到底幸福的来源是什么呢？欢迎大家来讨论，说出你的思考过程与结论，表达你的观点，让我们成为同频的好友。 **Language**: ZH-CN *4 likes · 2 comments · 299 views* [View this moment](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments/ubDcZvqtJKq5DD.md) --- [View all moments on HelloTalk](https://www.hellotalk.com/partners/ok_hy118/moments.md) [Back to 蒹葭hy's profile](https://www.hellotalk.com/partners/ok_hy118.md) --- ## Language Exchange Partners - 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