# My Voice Online: A Woman's Struggle with Misgendering & Insecurity ## Quick Navigation - [Find Partners](https://www.hellotalk.com/partners.md): Discover language exchange partners worldwide - [Language Exchange](https://www.hellotalk.com/partners/exchange.md): Practice with native speakers worldwide - [Moments](https://www.hellotalk.com/moments.md): Share your language learning journey - [Topics](https://www.hellotalk.com/topics.md): Explore trending topics and discussions - [Chat & Messaging](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/chat.md): Text, voice, and video conversations - [Voice Rooms](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/voiceroom.md): Join live audio conversations - [Live Streaming](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/live-streaming.md): Interactive classes and language sessions - [Certified Teachers](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/certified-teachers.md): Learn from professional language instructors - [Immersive Learning](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/immersive-learning.md): Learn everywhere with instant translations - [Translation Tools](https://www.hellotalk.com/features/translation.md): Instant translation between any languages - [AI-Powered Apps](https://www.hellotalk.com/aiapps.md): Access specialized learning tools - [Language AI Apps](https://www.hellotalk.com/aiapps.md): Discover our AI-powered language learning applications - [All Features](https://www.hellotalk.com/features.md): Explore all learning features and tools - [Download](https://www.hellotalk.com/download.md): Get HelloTalk on iOS and Android ## Author - **Name**: 叶子예지 - **Username**: @mynwh9 ## Content 我知道自己的声音不好听，是因为接陌生人电话时总是被称为“先生”而不是“女士”。神奇的是，我在线下与人面对面交流时，从未收到“声音奇怪”或者“声音像男人”的评价，唯独在线上对声音倍感自卑。 在某人的鼓励之下，我鼓起勇气进入语聊房上麦或发语音并与人通话，但结果毫无意外的不尽人意。客气的会问“是不是这个账号主人的男朋友”，不客气的会发火说“明明是男人，为什么要装成女人”，更有甚者问我“是不是变性人”。当然大部分人没说什么，只是在听过我的声音之后不再联系了。 我无意指责任何人，不过是作为HelloTalk失败者发发牢骚而已。出于自我保护，2025年我的目标是“现充”。其实图片中我的新年愿望也是，失望太多，所以放弃期待人生中会有好事发生，能维持现状已是万幸。 最后一天，第一天。只是年份改变而已，所有的一切依旧日常与当然。年纪只是更长一日而已，我并没有像我的名字一样变得更智慧。 2024，挑战了、失败了，但也学到了很多；2025，请对我的乳腺好一点。新年快乐。 나도 내 목소리가 좋지 않다는 것을 안다. 왜냐면 모르는 사람의 전화를 받을 때 항상 'Madam' 아니라 'Sir'라고 불리기 때문이다. 신기하게도 나는 오프라인에서 사람들과 대면 소통할 때 '목소리가 이상하다' 혹은 '목소리가 남자 같다'는 평을 들어본 적이 없는데 유독 온라인에서 목소리에 대해 자격지심을 많이 느낀다. 어떤 분의 격려에 나도 용기를 내서 보이스룸에 들어가 스테이지에 올라가거나 다른 사람들과 음성 메세지나 통화를 했지만 결과는 전혀 의외가 없었다. 좋게 말하는 분이 "혹시 이 계정 주인의 남자친구냐"고 묻고 나쁘게 말하는 사람이 "분명 남잔데 왜 여자를 위장하냐"고 화를 내고 심지어 "트랜스젠더냐"고 물어본 사람도 있었다. 물론 대부분은 말하지 않고 그냥 내 목소릴 듣고서 기피만 했다. 나는 누군가를 지적할 생각이 없고 그저 헬로톡 패잔병의 넋두리뿐이다. 자기보호하는 마음에 2025년 내 목표는 '현생 충실'이고 사실 아래 사진에 내 소원도 실망이 계속 쌓여서 인생에 좋은 일이 있겠다는 기대를 포기하고 현상 유지만 할 수 있으면 이미 다행이라고. 마지막 날, 첫날. 해가 바뀌는 것뿐, 모든 것은 여전히 일상적이고 당연하다. 나이는 고작 하루 늘었을 뿐이라 나는 그다지 내 이름처럼 더 지혜로워지지는 못했다. 2024년 도전하고 실패를 했지만 그래도 많이 배웠다. 2025년 잘 부탁한다. 해피 새해. ## Images 1. 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