I don't understand y many Chinese mothers lost their own names after they have kids. For example,my cousin sister's daughter's name is Fiona. Everyone calls my sister "Fiona's mom"instead of her name,including her husband My sister lost herself too after being mother.Her posts r full of her daughter.She always puts her daughter first. Everytime we ate together,she only ordered what her daughter can eat.I am not sure she remembers what she likes to eat or not There's no doubt that my sister is an excellent mother. I love her,I wish she loves herself most 我不明白为什么很多中国妈妈在有孩子以后失去了自己的名字。举个例子，我堂姐女儿叫菲奥娜，所有人叫我姐“菲奥娜妈妈”而不是她的名字，包括她老公 我姐在做妈妈后也失去了自己。她的动态只有女儿。她把女儿放在第一位。每次我们一起吃饭，她只点她女儿能吃的。我不确定她记不记得自己喜欢吃的东西 毫无疑问我姐是个优秀的妈妈。我爱她，我希望她最爱自己