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2021.06.11 14:11

The experience of women on this app is worlds apart from that

of men. I see posts of women denouncing constant harassment by men. I have even seen women making accounts with male gender to avoid this. Other times I see women take down all their pictures because of negative comments from men.

I wish this were not the case. No one should have to experience harassment.
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  • Ladan 2021.06.11 14:15

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    👍👏👏❤
  • Hninn Wai Wai 2021.06.11 14:16

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    That’s right friend. We must support to build gender equity environment
  • 02.jean 2021.06.11 14:25

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    It's right. Everyone has the obligation that helps support to build gender quality.
  • Iara Freitas 2021.06.11 14:30

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    @привет , I suffer harassment constantly. Almost every day denounces one or two. But I do not change my customs, no! I will not take my photos, lie about my genre. Who should change the behavior are these harassors. Must respect us. I'm the victim!
  • Iara Freitas 2021.06.11 14:36

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    @привет , But I found very good people here: Friends. People from various places in the world and help me with languages ​​that study. People who have been with me since when I got in here.
  • Victoria 2021.06.11 15:27

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    @Iara Freitas what do they exactly do? Where do you all guys find harassment? I understand that it is a trend now to see harassment everywhere, to feel like a victim, but I've been on this app for years, and I don't understand what I do wrong to not face any harassment😄 The only thing that I find annoying is that some men write not for language exchange, but they are easily blocked and forgotten
  • привет 2021.06.11 15:29

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    @chelian good job with pronunciation
  • Lola 2021.06.11 15:35

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    @Victoria я тоже не поняла. I'm here only month but I can read only good words and compliments from men and women. Only polite people. If someone wants more then just exchanges & friendship (searching for relationship) they are getting blocked 🤷
  • Jimena 2021.06.11 15:37

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    Los que empiezan con los acosos, los bloqueos. Aún así me dicen cosas que no me hacen sentir agusto, que ni al caso con la charla o la finalidad de la app es para aprender idiomas los bloqueo. Y la mayoría son del mismo pais
  • Victoria 2021.06.11 15:43

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    @Lola I actually hate it how women like to feel like "victims" nowadays. Look! He didn't reply to my message!! That's harassment! Look! He wrote that I am cute, but he didn't say I am pretty! That's harassment! Look! He asked my telephone number, how dare he, I can't just block him, I am the victim! Jeez. And they say men should respect them. I don't know about men, but I can't respect women that always suffer from harassment that happen only in their heads. No, I don't say that women never face harassment. Some do, and just terrible. But some just want attention or sympathy or I don't know what. Seriously, we are on the Internet, language exchange app. Not outside in the streets at night in a dangerous district or at school bullied by other children.
  • Lola 2021.06.11 16:11

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    @Victoria у них даже название есть нынче "снежинки" такие неженки, жесть. Видимо в России Матушке мы научились жёсткости, а там у них и кости из ваты поди. Моя кожа с крапивницей ведёт себя также, как и все западные люди - super sensitive. Кстати от этого страдают реальные жертвы, вещи этим снежинки привлекают внимание к себе, а настоящим жертвам (упаси Господь) это не помогает вообще. We used to have well bred brave gentlemen and elegant ladies with a soft heart. Now we have soft sensitive annoying women and scared uncaring men. Someone wrote "if you want to ruin some country from the inside you should start from the women"
  • привет 2021.06.11 16:57

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    @Lola @Victoria diminishing the experiences of other women is counterproductive to this discussion
  • Victoria 2021.06.11 17:03

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    @Lola Не слышала термин "снежинки", но очень подходит. Да уж, боишься уже иностранкам что-то сказать блин, все такие обидчивые и ранимые стали. Ещё мне нравится тенденция перехваливать за какие-то элементарные вещи. Скажет, например, человек "у меня отец пил, когда я была маленькой. Мне до сих пор тяжело это вспоминать, но я всё же не вскрыла вены. Или "Я вешу 100 и меня иногда называют полной. Это больно, но я вытираю слезы и продолжаю есть бургеры, ибо моё тело- моё дело" И все такие "Ты такая молодец, такая сильная, что смогла себе в этом признаться, нужно реальное мужество, чтобы понять, что тебе что-то неприятно и идти дальше. В общем, корчат героинь на пустом месте, а другие им аплодируют. Какой-то детский сад. Я вот написала другу из Англии, что пошла к психотерапевту депрессию лечить, он меня на серьезных щас сильной несгибаемой женщиной назвал. За что, я так и не поняла
  • mysterious 2021.06.11 17:33

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    @Victoria Полностью согласна с Вами💯
  • Victoria 2021.06.11 17:42

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    @привет crying about harassment on the language exchange app is counterproductive. I know a lot of woman who faced real harassment and they really suffer from those fragile ladies that see harassment everywhere, because they are also not taken seriously
  • Iara Freitas 2021.06.11 18:14

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    @Victoria , what they do: ask to have virtual sex, send naked pictures, ask for intimate photos of me ... among other things. These are these types of situations that block and denounce the person. Has this ever happened to you? Not? Lucky your!!!!
  • Victoria 2021.06.11 19:04

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    @Iara Freitas such things happen, rarely. But every day...I would actually say, unlucky you, I am not the one that blames a victim, I just say it seems strange. Maybe you are very polite? Some... individuals consider it as a sign that you are ready for...more. When I see telltale signs that man is starting to flirt with me or is about to start saying vulgar things, I stop being polite, it usually works. I don't know why they consider politeness as that you want such things. Yet, I think words "suffer" and "victim" are a bit loud for the situation. Yes, it's unpleasant, disappointing. But in my opinion people suffer when they cat die or they face sexual harassment from their boss and tgey can't change their job and they are stuck in this situation. I think you should consider changing your way of talking. Again, I am not blaming you, I just say that they may see some triggers in your manner of speaxh, false triggers. There is always a chance, that you are just unlucky
  • sepide 2021.06.11 19:20

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    👌👌👌👌
  • Emília 2021.06.11 19:52

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    I'm sorry that many women don't know what harassment is, and live trapped in their cultures. I have already suffered harassment in this App, the aggressor said harsh words to me because I did not accept to share my number for the video call, he used profanity that made me embarrassed. I had to add on the profile that I am married, and yet I heard requests for me to separate, I received several calls without asking if I could answer and they asked me for pictures. I needed to block several .
  • Deb.R 2021.06.11 20:05

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    @привет Exactly.
  • Iara Freitas 2021.06.11 20:48

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    @Victoria , I did not say every day. I said almost every day. And being educated is a reason to be harassed? I also suffered harassment at work, on the street .. I talked about the app because the post is about harassment here. I read the comments from other colleagues and I think I'm not the only not Lucky.
  • Victoria 2021.06.11 21:23

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    @Iara Freitas I didn't say, that being educated is a reason to be harassed. I just say that some people perceive politeness as weakness or a wish to join their pervert interests. Such people tend to misinterpret. As they say, one sees what ones wishes. Alnost every day is also quite often) I think there is almost no person that didn't suffer harassment at work or on the street. But there was a post about this app. I just say that people now tend to take it to close to their heart. I mean, you won't change bustards saying " you must respect me", you won't survive if you keep suffering from "send me your naked photos, look how big my cock is". Harassment is real and we all come across it from time to time, but people do tend to exaggerate and call harassment everything. Just look at the words you use "suffer, victim". Real victims those that were beaten, raped, threatened, sexualy compelled, bullied by colleages are not heard. You won't beat harassment by calling everyone harassers
  • AA山东mr.常 2021.06.13 13:27

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    Hello friend
  • AA山东mr.常 2021.06.13 13:27

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